The only way to effectively deal with conflicting interests and conflicts between diverse groups of people and diverse individuals is to have a set of rules that apply to everyone (on the server, at the event, part of the organization, etc.), regardless of what group or tribe they belong to.
Some examples: No harassment. Period. No death threats. Period. No offensive name calling. Period. No trolling. Period.
If you give people from your group or tribe a free pass to harass outsiders, then it just degrades to "we can harass you, but you can't harass us" which is unfair and toxic. It is also counterproductive, since it stirs up more conflict and causes resentment between groups and individuals. If you want to make things worse, only enforce the rules in one direction. This is where some of the "we don't feel welcome on the fediverse" comes from: rules being enforced only in one direction.
It does not matter if you are white, black, brown, LGB, trans, QIA+, purple, polka dotted, etc. People should not be harassing each other, and ideally platforms should prohibit harassment from everyone. That would create a safe space for everyone, including blacks, trans, LGB, etc. because the people creating toxic posts are banned or blocked. And people, especially minorities, are more likely to speak freely if they are not going to be harassed.
